Welcome to my Wedding Day (part one)

Welcome to my Wedding Day

The morning came quick as I ran to the bathroom with an upset stomach. What was happening? Do brides feel sick sometimes the morning of their wedding day? Is it wedding day jitters? I had been a bridesmaid in four weddings by this point, and I hadn't heard of any of my friends getting sick like this on their wedding day. I was exhausted at 5 a.m. I had just gone to bed about 4 hours ago because we were all preparing for the big day. The big day could have been called the "big eventful day." I got back in bed and checked my phone. My matron-of-honor had liked something on my Instagram. Why was she up? I texted her and she told me she was sick too. She was feeling much worse than I was, so she was going to head back to her house and get some medicine and more rest.

Just a few minutes later, I had a text from my fiancé. He likes to say he's allergic to my hometown where we were having the wedding, and he definitely is! The allergies are so bad there, and he was struggling with that on the morning of our wedding day. There was a living room area at the place we were staying, so he and I met there and talked about how we were feeling, and we decided to drive over to my parents' house to get him some allergy medicine. At the house, my mom told me two of my brothers were sick to their stomach. At first, I thought maybe it was just a random coincidence that me and my friend had been sick that morning, but after I heard we weren't the only ones, I knew what is was. We had food poisoning.

As the day went on, we found out that about half of the people who had been at the rehearsal dinner had gotten food poisoning. My best friend finally returned around noon and was feeling better, but not great. One of my brothers was sick until about an hour before the wedding. My sweet grandpa went to pick up the wedding cake about 40 minutes away and got sick on his way home. It was CRAZY I tell you! Thankfully, I was only sick for a couple of hours, then I was okay the rest of the day.

If you read the title, you know this is just part one of our wedding day story, and it doesn't really ever get much better. I know I sound quite negative when talking about our wedding day, but this is how it happened. I had dreamed about this day for years. I'd written down plans about it, and I'd talked to friends about what I wanted on my wedding day, but it just didn't happen. However, I want to point out, how I (and my husband) feel about our wedding day has NO relevance on how we feel about our marriage. We believe our marriage is stronger because of our wedding planning and wedding day events. Marriage is so much more important than the actual wedding day. I understand that, and I believe that with my whole heart, but that also doesn't change how we look back on our wedding day.

Just a few days ago, my husband and I were talking about our marriage, and discussing the things we feel we are good at, and the things we could improve on. One of the biggest things we agreed we do well on is communication. This is often shared on any marriage advice book, podcast or other medium. So our advice to you, whether you're newly married, engaged or going on 20 plus years, is to always share and talk with your spouse. Marriage wasn't created for two people to sit in silence. Marriage was designed to be a bond where two people are actively contributing to their relationship on a daily basis. I hope our story will encourage others to realize it's okay if things don't go perfectly on your wedding day. You may not have the "best day ever" the day you get married, but you can work towards having the best marriage ever!